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Tuesday, September 13, 2016

The Seasons Change Along with Our Expectations

School is underway for a new year of education and activities.  The children are beginning to accept that summer time is over for the moment.  Every now and then, we catch a glimpse of the weather changes that are just around the corner.  The night times and mornings are a bit cooler.  There is a chill in the air at the Friday night football games where hot chocolate is becoming more attractive as a beverage versus an iced drink.  Fundraisers for school and sports activities have already begun.  The never ending schedule of chauffeur duties keeps us busy.  So why would it not seem possible that we need to also take a minute to check on our expectations?

I would like to think that this fall, all homework assignments will be completed and turned in on time. 

I want to understand what materials will be necessary for special projects...before they are due.

I want to know that appointments for the children will not conflict with last minute changes to sports practices.

I hope that the expenses incurred as the result of choices we made regarding schooling will be gentle on the budget.

I just know that those school supplies we purchased will last longer than they did last year.

I desperately want to believe that there will be a minimum amount of time spent on illnesses and doctor's visits.  (Last year was not great in this regard.)

I will have ample time to work on my writing projects and reach a point where I know publication is close!

By this time next year, I will be able to look back and be content with what we accomplished.

The reality of all these things occurring?  Well, for the moment I choose to be hopeful.  Sometimes, I am hopeful to a fault.  But as far as faults go, I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing.  

Today, I have a challenge to face.  This challenge is the result of an incident that occurred at the end of July.  It is one that does not make me happy, but it is one that is necessary.  Sometimes our children make mistakes when they choose a behavior. It is our job as parents to encourage them to face the consequences and move beyond the mistakes they make.

It would be easy to point fingers or place the blame on someone else when our children have to face legal consequences.  But raising human beings isn't supposed to be easy.  Children are meant to make crappy decisions, forget the rules, and try to avoid the consequences.  It is our job as parents to guide them, correct them, and inspire them to do what is right.  They need to understand how to do the right things for the right reasons at the right time.  

When the consequences are revealed today, we will have walked one step closer toward realizing the goal of raising a human being; one who is ready to make a difference in the world.  This happens when the adults can see past the mistake, love the child for who she is, and allow her to accept responsibility for her actions.  Yelling, belittling, or making her feel like shit is not going to make that happen.  Being a caring, patient, and understanding adult who provides clear expectations...that's what will inspire the necessary changes.

As we prepare for another season of changes, stop to consider what will inspire you toward being a source of inspiration to someone who needs to be inspired.  I'd love to hear your ideas!

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