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Tuesday, May 24, 2016

The Reluctant Catholic ~ Here's One Reason Why

The following article was found on my Face Book feed today.  Nothing like ticking off a tired mom of three after a LONG weekend of moving...to a second floor apartment.  That's a lot of physical and emotional work.  So here goes.... 
Catholic Study Fellowship
Thank you Holy Father for your wisdom.


Pope Francis has joined the American College of Pediatricians in denouncing the transgender ideology of fluid sexual identity among children.
Check out at least one article from each site and you can determine on your own if anecdotal references v. research based information is the best method to transmit accurate information.  Best case scenario:  A combination of these modalities is important when encouraging readers to make informed decisions.

Here are a few of the "responses" following this post: (Names edited out for confidentiality.)
 K: None of us are thrilled with the body we are given. May be too tall, or too short, have bad vision or bad hearing, too dark or too pale. It really doesn't matter. We all have what God wanted us to have. So deal with it.


J: What's next? I love to swim, I love to dive, I identify with dolphins? I want to be called Flipper?


C: Funny, there was a South Park where a character had plastic surgery to look like a dolphin.


My Comments as Mary Varville-Rodriguez:
Sad that so many are misinformed regarding the social/emotional/physiological issues surrounding this topic. There are neurological factors involved that are being ignored. Until the church recognizes the medical/biological/neurological reasons for the "LGBTQ" community, there will continue to be a divide and the Catholic Church will continue to struggle with embracing individuals into our church community who might be able to share the meaning of the Pope's "Year of Mercy". 

I grew up Catholic, went to Catholic School, attended Mass every Sunday and Holy Days, and believed that people are made in the image and likeness of God. Do we really think Jesus would condemn those who do not fall into the "traditional" biological bodies we know? I am a heterosexual woman with three children, and I protect them with my entire being. If any of them came to me and expressed concern about their sexual identity, I would do everything possible to help them understand what was happening including medically related baseline testing (blood work to identify hormone levels, neuropsychological testing etc...) and seeking the advice of a therapist specially trained to address this issue.

I would not make decisions based upon generalized assumptions such as the ones depicted in the article by "Catholic Study Fellowship".  How about an article that encourages us to become aware of resources and become the best possible advocates for our children?  THAT is a concept we can embrace as a community as we provide strategies, resources, and insights that might be helpful.

Those who have no training in this topic or refuse to acknowledge how this situation might occur are not acting in a "Christ-like" manner. I want to share my Catholic faith with my children, but I will not condone this type of judgment and dismissal of children who identify as "trans". How would you feel if someone said, "Get over your.......(fill in the illness, worries, concerns, problem of the day)"? If the comments on this feed are representative of the Catholic faith, then we have a long way to go in achieving the type of loving, accepting, and embracing community that the Pope has asked of us for this, the "Year of Mercy". I will be re-posting this article with my comments at http://poetztree.blogspot.com/ (Reflections Beneath the Poetz Tree~Parenting Observations, Insights, and Inspirations)

Personal concerns regarding this article and the tone in which it was presented:
First:  This is supposed to be a "Catholic Study Fellowship" site. Second:  Is this really the purpose of a study group? To belittle, incorrectly inform, and marginalize individuals who are already dealing with a challenge that many people can not (or refuse) to understand? Third:  Where is the research that goes along with this topic?  Not the first time I have posted my concerns regarding the lack of understanding for medically related topics. Fourth: Once again, "Catholic Study Fellowship" has failed to provide appropriate resources, educated recommendations, and realistic plans for what a parent can do when there is a concern, question, or need for advice.   

So, here are a few resources that I researched out of at least 100 sites that I found on line.  Please feel free to add your ideas, insights, personal stories, and inspirations.  If you are a medical professional who is aware of current research in this area, I am interested in acknowledging this on my site and will gladly post what is available.

Challenge to Catholic Study Fellowship Site:  The next time you quote Pope Francis or quote any Catholic Doctrine on this matter, please include resources. To leave people hanging with guilt and shame is...ahem...not very Catholic at all. 




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    Those were the days of “tears and fears,” says Mary Ellen Lopata, co-founder of the support group Fortunate Families. “Now parents are reacting with fire and ire. Things have changed dramatically. The church has lost so much in not welcoming our gay and lesbian children. They have left the church in droves because they are not welcomed. They can stay if they’re silent, suppressing a big part of who they are. Now the church is starting to lose their parents as well.” - See more at: http://www.uscatholic.org/church/2012/01/mamas-and-papas-what-its-catholic-parents-glbt-children#sthash.EmFhHaNr.dpuf
    Those were the days of “tears and fears,” says Mary Ellen Lopata, co-founder of the support group Fortunate Families. “Now parents are reacting with fire and ire. Things have changed dramatically. The church has lost so much in not welcoming our gay and lesbian children. They have left the church in droves because they are not welcomed. They can stay if they’re silent, suppressing a big part of who they are. Now the church is starting to lose their parents as well.” - See more at: http://www.uscatholic.org/church/2012/01/mamas-and-papas-what-its-catholic-parents-glbt-children#sthash.EmFhHaNr.dpuf
    "We are Catholic parents of LGBT sons and daughters sharing with others on the same journey our message of hope and unconditional love for our families and fostering respect, friendship and justice for our children."






    Linda and Rob Robertson point out a quote on the headstone of the grave of their son, Ryan, in Issaquah, Wash. The couple, evangelical Christians, brought their son to "reparative therapy" when he came out to them as gay. His sexual orientation didn't change, and he became addicted to drugs and eventually died of an overdose. The Robertsons are now dedicated to helping other evangelical parents accept their gay children.

    "Linda and Rob Robertson point out a quote on the headstone of the grave of their son, Ryan, in Issaquah, Wash. The couple, evangelical Christians, brought their son to "reparative therapy" when he came out to them as gay. His sexual orientation didn't change, and he became addicted to drugs and eventually died of an overdose. The Robertsons are now dedicated to helping other evangelical parents accept their gay children."
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    Mary Varville-Rodriguez, Writer/Author
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