This week I have had several opportunities to read parenting blogs, articles of interest, and various postings through social media. I have been astounded at the amount of self-deprecating comments that are made - mostly by women. Why is it so hard for us to acknowledge our accomplishments and celebrate our successes? Do we not feel deserving of the compliments we receive? I have at times acquiesced to this behavior as well. Historically women have allowed themselves to feel that they must be the support system, cheering section, and behind the scenes pit crew for the work force rat race. Is that really what we want to demonstrate for our children?
Girls and Boys will absorb the lessons they observe from us as their adult role models. When we down play our achievements, brush off compliments, or minimize our roles, we send a clear message that we are not worthy of our successes. If humility has a place in our lives, them so should accomplishments. We may not even realize how important it is to demonstrate confidence in our abilities and skills. Children need to see that we can solve problems, cope with emergencies, and demonstrate self-sufficiency when things do not go as planned.
So the next time you receive a compliment on something you worked to achieve or on a personal attribute with which you are gifted, it's OK to smile and say, "Thank You." Recently I received a compliment regarding my parenting skills from a school counselor. I replied with, "Wow. I feel really humbled." She responded with a firm tone, "There's no need for humility." That was an eye opener. I am grateful she was so candid with me. Women need to remind each other that it's more than OK to acknowledge our awesomeness.
How wonderful it would be if we all felt supported and willing to surround ourselves with positive and uplifting advice, compliments, and encouragement. Likewise it would be soul rewarding to accept advice on how we can rethink our perceptions so that we can continue to learn and grow. I have been the recipient of such wisdom. It was not always easy to hear, but when I thought about the implications I chose to take the advice to heart. Women can either chose to sabotage each other's efforts or they can chose to mentor and inspire each other. How will you chose to develop your legacy to your children?
Have a Wonderful Weekend filled with positive and uplifting interactions. If that becomes a challenge, maybe it's time to rethink who inspires you and brings out the best in you. I will continue to do the same. Thank You to all my fellow bloggers, friends, and family who are my inspirations. I will make an effort to provide compliments, referrals, support, and loving reminders.